Children need love. Parents need respect. It is as simple and complex as that!
frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent doesn’t declare, "You
don’t love me." Instead the parent asserts, "You are being disrespectful
right now." A parent needs to feel respected, especially during
conflicts. When upset a child does not whine, "You don’t respect me."
Instead, a child pouts, "You don’t love me." A child needs to feel
loved, especially during disputes.
But here’s the rub: An
unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels
disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a
way that feels unloving to the child. This dynamic gives birth to the family crazy cycle.
So how is one to break out of this cycle?
Best-selling author Emerson Eggerichs has studied the family dynamic for
more than 30 years, having his Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology. As a
senior pastor for nearly two decades, Eggerichs builds on a foundation
of strong biblical principles, walking the reader through an entirely
new way to approach the family dynamic. For instance, God reveals ways
to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus
how to motivate them to obey and how to deal with them when they don’t.
In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent.
This book is about that revelation.