Dr. Miles Mettler initially thought that his job was to instruct his children — but he realized that he needed to take ownership of his own mistakes before expecting his kids to abide by his expectations. So he learned to ask his children for feedback on how he was doing as a parent. He also recognized the importance of looking for the good his kids were doing, rather than focusing on the negatives. Miles recommends parents “ask for permission” to talk to their kids – rather than barging in and interrupting what they’re doing. That models respect and how parents want their kids to approach them. Miles also suggests parents think intentionally about not saying “no” to every request for their child. Overall, Miles’ objective is to help parents build trust their children.