The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

I wish I'd had this book at the beginning of my marriage when the destructive words and behaviours began tearing apart my sanity, or between the separations that ripped me apart emotionally. It may have saved me years of recovery from over a decade of abuse. I discovered Leslie Vernick's ministry and this book after I had left for the last time and was pursuing legal separation. The biblically-based hard truths in this book may have helped save my marriage... or at least saved me from the chaos and confusion of trying desperately to save what was so twisted and broken. It takes two committed people to make a good marriage; it only takes one to destroy it. I hope that you never have to experience what I and many thousands of others have survived. But, if you are in the middle of the nightmare, questioning your own sanity, having lost all sense of who you really are, please reach out, tell somebody what's going on, get some help TODAY, and read this book.

The book is super insightful and I have personally found it very relevant to marital strife that I’ve experienced in my marriage. It’s offered practical advice, tangible solutions, and it has given me hope for the future. It’s thought-provoking and has opened my eyes to new perspectives that have never occurred to me before. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who’s married.

I heard Leslie speak in a Focus on the Family interview and ordered the book immediately and am so thankful I did! This is an amazing book: I learned that my marriage is indeed a D- but there is hope though Jesus' redemptive work. Such great insight, scripture references, strategies and hope! I will recommend this book to my family and friends in similar situations - it's a comfort to know that a number of them are in disappointing marriages (C- and higher) rather than destructive.

Very enlightening and useful in learning how to effectively respond to destructive behaviour in marriage.

Out of ALL the books I’ve read on this subject, this was the most helpful. Discerning the difference between a disappointing marriage and a destructive one was very helpful. That God cares about the people in the marriage and not just marriage only, was encouraging.